I don't want to confuse my own experience for the wider world's but the number of e-mails I received back in August from Asian guys suggests this difference between the sexes is something they're genuinely bemused by.
Back in August, blogger Brunette suggested it "may be because Caucasian men are seen as more 'masculine' so it's a bit of a status symbol for Asian girls to date or marry them." "Conversely, I think Caucasian men tend to see Asian women as more 'feminine', petite and even more compliant and submissive than their Caucasian counterparts." Blogger Lady Lips chimed in saying it may be because Asian men are generally more diminutive and "it's just not sexy for a chick to go out with someone who is smaller than her." "We like to feel all petite next to our big, broad boyfriends, not like an elephant next to our teeny tiny boyfriends." Poster Qwerty also suggested media stereotyping had a role to play saying "white guys are 'cool', Asian guys are 'nerdy' and Asian girls are 'exotic'.
My question is this - why is it okay for asian families to want their children to date with in their race, but this is not okay for white people.
When an asian family does this, they're defended and described as traditional, but if white people did this, they would be racist?
"Especially with Koreans, there's a lot of national pride involved, it's like losing face if you don't marry a girl of your own nationality." So is that the answer?