Dating advice hard to get
Your client may be beautiful, but she’s not especially young.
Also, she’s got a child, and unfortunately, evidence shows most men view others’ kids as a cost in long-term relations.
All you need to do is to give a little hope and then take it back.
In the end, to be hard to get is a good antidote to women’s mating-centrism.
Don’t let your appearance of disinterest outweigh the other’s interest in you.
The plain truth is this: Steve is not yet Suzy’s friend for life, and so , or else risk much wasted time and emotion.
So, here is what Suzy can say that will maintain her honesty, keep her one-up at this early stage, raise her desirability through competition, and help Steve figure out whether he really does like her: “Steve, I am having a good time getting to know you, but I should tell you, to keep things honest, that I always date around until a man I’m seeing asks me to become exclusive. D., is the author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do, coming in January, 2015.
I’m not suggesting you feel that way about me, but I want to let you know I am seeing others, and I understand that you may be dating around, too.” If Steve really likes Suzy, he will not like this; it will put him one-down, it will be uncomfortable, it will make him work harder than he may have planned. She also contributes at Psychology Today and teaches psychology at Austin-area universities.