Issues dealing interracial dating

by  |  02-Nov-2016 16:43

So, if you’re someone who believes we live in a post-racial society because we have a Black president, you probably won’t be the best long-term partner for a person of color. Your partner is not the “exception to the rule.” The belief that men of color are “thugs” and thus somehow unworthy of white respect is a widespread belief that is often exploited by the media and politics.

Just because you’re dating a Black person does not mean it’s impossible for you to say/do racist things, and it doesn’t absolve you of recognizing your White privilege. As discussed in point one, many non-minority people exist in a majority world where they infrequently encounter and experience racism.

That privilege is revoked when you decide to date interracially.

Many of the racist notions and opinions that may have otherwise seemed trivial carry far more weight in the presence of a non-White partner.

And such displays of ignorance, sadly, tend to become a frequent part of your interaction with the world as you move through it beside a person of color, including when dealing with family, loved ones, coworkers and authority figures. This same White curiosity will lead many to ask you some pretty ignorant questions about your partner so be prepared. Society fetishizes mixed babies, but does not treat mixed-race individuals well.

Case in point: Recently, Black students walked out of their school in protest after a school official tweeted this a photo along with the caption “every white girl’s father’s worst nightmare or not.” Aside from obvious ignorance and prejudice, White “curiosity” about “otherness” often leads to very uncomfortable conversations that can sour quickly. According to the Bureau of Justice Victimization report, biracial individuals are victimized at a rate three times that of Whites and two times the rate of Blacks.

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