Southern dating rules
In my younger and less mature years, I thought that this was too formal. When it comes down to it, that is what manners are all about. That is really the heart of etiquette and manners is to help others feel important through your actions.
I thought I was too cool to show this kind of respect. I have since started using sir and ma'am as I speak with people and it is something that people really admire. This begins to open up lines of communication and is very important. They were taught not to be rude or obnoxious in public places.
Guys, be prepared to pay for the date (especially the first one) Subsequent ones can be worked out in due course when you know a bit more about each other Never spring it on her to 'cough up' If you pay, understand that there must be no strings attached Girls, be considerate - offer to pay half OR to buy the drinks or something to show that you are not a freeloader. Then there can be no strings attached and you can maintain your independence But don’t sweat the issue - you could talk about it on the way to the venue so that you are prepared You could offer to cook a meal or bring a picnic basket to the next date if there is the possibility of a follow up date Be prepared ahead of time to have a few topics for light hearted conversation; nothing too controversial No strong opinions please Remember that the objective of a date is generally to assess the potential of coming together to be a couple in a close permanent relationship in so far as permanency goes Never stand up your date Postpone rather than cancel Do not just fail to show up. Say – please, thank you, after you, you’re welcome, etc Acknowledge each others’ courtesies with a smile and/or ‘thank you’ Show a keen interest in your date Make frequent eye contact (do not leer) Use their name – frequently.
To them it is the sweetest word in any language Never feign affection.
If someone takes the time to send you a gift, the least you can do is show your gratitude with a thank you note. Mention what the gift was and add a touch of the personal.