Average time frame for widowers who remarry is about two – three years while for widows, it’s three to five years.
The best answer I ever heard was something along the lines of And it is. Stereotypes say that men date sooner and remarry more quickly than women do, and there is statistical validity in this.
He suddenly wanted to “just be friends” when he found out I had a child.
It’s manipulative and unfair, and frankly, widowed who do this are the worst kinds of assholes. If the idea of dating makes you nauseous, or seems like something best put up on a shelf for the time being, there’s nothing wrong with that.
The point is that the days of donning mourning for public displays of grieving for specific periods of time are long over.
Widowed who are truly ready to date do not use their widowhood to control the pace of a relationship or coerce their girl/boyfriends into accepting unilateral terms of engagement.
Playing the widow card in the relationship arena is a no-no. Some widowed find contentment and even a lot of joy in being single and unattached.
Anyone who is spouting rules and timelines at you has an ulterior agenda, and you are within your rights to question them and it. Even if you aren’t sure, meeting a guy or gal for coffee never hurt anybody, and enjoying the occasional Starbuck’s isn’t a commitment to anything.